We all want to accomplish things in this life. If that wasn’t the case, what’s the point of living? Life is a continuous cycle of moving from goal to goal, task to task. However, the journey that we embark on to achieve our aspirations is almost never rainbows and sunshine. It’s those who persevere through hardships despite the odds that are deemed a “hero”. Typically, that refers to someone else; someone that you admire, or who inspires you. But what about being your own hero? What about working hard for yourself, and being damn proud of that? It’s possible, my friends. it’s possible to stay motivated and never give up on yourself, but it takes some intentionality and hard work.
- Stop shying away from being an individual. It’s one thing to do something, wear something, speak a certain way, present yourself a certain way, etc. because it fits who you are and you like it. It’s another thing entirely to compose those elements of yourself based on other people. If your motives behind how you behave and present yourself are to please other people and/or to “fit in”, stop it right now. Embrace who you really are, and walk with confidence. You will never become a hero, let alone your own hero if you’re too busy trying to be something you’re not and denying your individuality.
- Be ok with the effort you give. Whatever goal it is, if you are giving it all your effort at a given time, that is Don’t waste your time beating yourself up if you don’t achieve a certain goal “fast enough” when you’re giving your all. If effort is consistently made, you WILL achieve your goal.
- Baby steps count. When in pursuit of a big goal, don’t discount the little victories. They matter, and will ultimately lead to bigger victories down the line. The little accomplishments are the momentum that propels you forward and keeps you from giving up. They are small signs of progress that say, “hey! You’re doing great, keep going.” Keep track of the little victories along the way so you can go back and remember where you came from and what you accomplished. You’ll thank me later.
- When s*** happens, tell yourself, “it’s ok”. Because it is. Like I said before, the road to achieving a goal is never rainbows and sunshine. The payoff wouldn’t nearly be as satisfying if goals were easy to accomplish. Showing yourself grace and kindness is a forgotten cornerstone to success. Often times, perseverance means saying, “ok. I did the best I could given the circumstances, and I am going to improve on it tomorrow.”
- Show gratitude. The importance behind taking into account what you’re grateful for is that it makes hard work much more enjoyable and worth it. It puts a positive light on a process that may not be positive until it’s over, and it keeps you humble. Often it’s easy to get stuck in an “everything’s going wrong and I’m a failure” mentality when circumstances become difficult, and recalling the things that you’re thankful for is the saving grace. It’s as easy as making a small list every night before bed of three things to be thankful for.
Everyone says, “You can do anything you set your mind to”, but the reality is that it’s completely true. The trick is being persistent, putting in the work, being thankful, staying true to who you are, and being kind to yourself. Being your own hero in any facet of life is within your reach.